We're Here for You
Our counselors specialize in working with teens, young adults and parents who are concerned about unhealthy and controlling relationships. Counselors are available to talk by phone, meet at school or at our private location. The services are free and confidential. For help, please call our 24-hour helpline 1-877-R-U-ABUSED and someone will be there ready to listen and support you.
For Yourself
If you feel like you are in an unhealthy relationship and recognize some of these warning signs in your relationship, know that you are not alone and that there are supports and resources for you to access. It is essential for you to know that you did nothing wrong, or deserve this.
If you feel comfortable reaching for support, counselors are available to talk by phone or meet at school or at our private location. The services are free and confidential.
For a Friend Hurting from Abuse
You may be the first person to suspect that your friend is being abused. And you may be the person your friend confides in when there is a problem. But before you have that conversation, think carefully about what you are going to say and where you will do it.
Every situation is unique and sometimes just talking about the abuse with the victim can be dangerous. If you are worried about your or your friend’s safety, then a knowledgeable adult or the 24-hour helpline is a good place to start. You can speak to someone on the phone without giving your name.
For Your Student
If you suspect a student is in an unhealthy relationship, providing resources and support is a great place to start. If you are a teacher connect with the guidance center to see their recommended support. For help, please call our 24-hour helpline 1-877-R-U-ABUSED and someone will be there ready to listen and support you. To help prevent unhealthy relationships in your school community, please see more information about our awareness programs and how No2DatingAbuse can bring workshops to your school for your students.
For Your Child
If you think your child may be in an unhealthy relationship, that may be very scary and unsettling as a parent or guardian. But before you have that conversation, think carefully about what you are going to say and where you will do it. Every situation is unique and sometimes just talking about the abuse with the victim can be dangerous.
The most dangerous time in a relationship for the victim is leaving the relationship. It is important to not force your child to immediately cut off this relationship. Our counselors specialize in working with teens, young adults, and parents who are concerned about unhealthy and controlling relationships.
For Someone Using Abuse
Someone who is being abusive to a dating partner will likely continue to be abusive unless they get help. It’s not easy to confront a friend about abuse, but it’s important because everyone deserves to have a safe and healthy relationship. Here are some tips to help you* Be clear and specific. Honestly describe what happened and your reaction. “I didn’t like it when you called your girlfriend fat and ugly in front of us. She must have felt really embarrassed.” Don’t reject your friend, just the behavior. Let your friend know that abusive and controlling behavior has negative consequences.
*An excerpt from What You Need to Know about Dating Violence — A Teen Handbook by Liz
